Making Difficult Decisions


Sharon Moist

Last month I made the difficult decision to end a five-year relationship. The truth of the matter, however, is that I really should have ended this relationship three years ago, when I first thought about it. Unfortunately, like most people, I just kept thinking that if I did something different or tried harder, things would work out. Sadly, that was not the case.

So, let me share with you the steps I took to make this decision and get through the process:

1) Talk to a trusted friend. One morning, as I was having a conversation with my friend Julie, she started asking me some questions about this situation, and the more questions she asked, the more I realized that my heart truly just wasn't in it anymore. And while that was a tough fact to swallow, the more I thought about it, the more I realized that I just couldn't do it anymore.

2) Make a decision. Once I realized that my heart just wasn't in this relationship anymore, I made the decision to end it. Now, that's not to say it was an easy decision, because it wasn't. In fact, once I made the decision to end things, I spent a lot of time in tears, mostly grieving for "what might have been," instead of grieving for what actually was!

3) Take a break. After I made the decision to end things, I took some time off to do nothing, which included spending a week at the ocean (sans computer!), reading chick lit, taking naps and going for walks on the beach.

4) Create a new plan. Once I knew that I was done, it was time for me to make a new plan because I knew if I didn't, the temptation would be to go back to what was "familiar and safe," instead of step into the unknown. That's not to say it's an easy place to be at the moment. However, I know in my heart that I made the right decision and now I can't wait to see what the future holds!

Remember, sometimes we need to give up something that we think is "good" in order to get something "great" down the road. And, if I can do it, you can do it, too, so please know that you're not alone!

I believe in you ... 


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